My husband is at it again. It’s been hours since he last uttered a word to me, and he’s still in front of his computer, which, by the way, costs more than our entire wedding, and he is so busy carrying out whatever mission is at hand, perhaps saving the world or maybe the entire universe. I don’t know what exactly is at stake, but one thing is for sure: He has to focus because he just cannot lose.
Okay, fine. I am already getting sleepy, and I may fall asleep anytime, so I just give him a quick kiss on the cheek, tell him good night, and go to the bedroom, where our two cats wait for me. No drama ensues. For real.
Why? You may be wondering. And my answer is just very simple: I really don’t mind that he’s into gaming. And though I sometimes mess with him by complaining, in jest, that he no longer has time for me, the truth is that I am not mad at all because I know what it’s like to be so passionate about something that you get so engrossed with it and forget about the rest of the world. In fact, that’s how I am when I get so hooked on a book or when I get so invested in whatever it is I am writing.
To be very honest, I think I am even worse. Imagine, when I get so busy with whatever, I just tell my husband not to talk to me. Sometimes I demand to be left alone and not be bothered at all—not to be asked if I’d want to grab something to eat or how I am doing. I delay household chores, too, because I feel like they can wait. There are times when I just go elsewhere just so I can focus.
So when my husband plays computer games, I simply let him. Sometimes I even encourage him to play some more, especially if he has been so busy with work and it’s been a while since I last saw him lose sleep over computer games. I tell him to sit in front of his computer, turn it on, and just play. Relax, I tell him over and over, urging him to make the most of his computer because that’s why he bought it in the first place, right? To use it?
But of course, I am confident to say all this because my husband remains responsible despite his love for gaming. Sure, he spends hours in front of his computer, but that does not mean he no longer performs his duties as a husband. Besides making time for me, he also does all the chores assigned to him—sometimes even more.
And while some may say that I am the luckiest woman in the world, I really don’t think so because I believe that any decent individual should know how to strike a balance between fulfilling their duties and having fun. Besides, when men do what they are supposed to do, should they be glorified? Isn’t that how things are supposed to be?
